How would I know!!??!!

A married woman was talking about the stress in her life thanks to her spouse. She has been married for over 10 years now. Listening to her banter I asked why she is so upset. Did she not select to be in the marriage?


She sad obviously I did. "I loved him!!" He was different then. Things have changed. You lose your independence when you get married; you lose your identity when you have kids. She went on talking about events in her life that prove this theory.

I once again asked her the same question. "Did you not select to be in the marriage?" She got irritated and walked out telling me; "You are not married, you will not understand what I am saying!!"

So true I don't understand this "married people" banter. First they are desperate to get married and once they have they think life has come to an end.

Marriage is man-created; love is part of life. When you create marriage around love you are creating security. You are making something that cannot be; love cannot be legal. You are trying to do the impossible, and in that effort, love dies- no wonder.

You become a husband; your beloved becomes a wife. You are no longer two alive persons, you are two functionaries. The husband has a certain function; the wife has a certain function: they have certain duties to fulfill. Then life has ceased to flow, it is frozen.

Watch a husband and wife. You will always see two persons frozen (like wax statutes from Madam Tussauds), sitting side by side, not knowing what they are doing there, why they are sitting there. Maybe they have nowhere to go now, or maybe they are waiting for the new propulsion to move.

The husband stops listening to what the wife is saying; he has become deaf long ago. The wife never sees what is happening to the husband; she has become blind to him. They take each other absolutely for granted; they have become things. They are no longer persons because persons are always open, persons are always uncertain, persons are always changing. Now they have a fixed role to fulfill. They died the day they got married. Since that day they have not lived.

I'm not saying not to get married, but remember that love is the real thing. And if it dies then marriage is worthless.

So have you not placed yourself in that position? Who is to be blamed??

When you see love between two persons, something is flowing, moving, changing. When there is love between two persons they live in an aura. Their vibrations are reaching to each other. There is no wall between them, they are two and yet not two-they are one always.

So all my married friends who know it all- can you not love each other once again??

 Cheers
Preeti